People watch movies that depict characters who overcome adversity or movies that display grand adventures and celebrations of accomplishments and heroic deeds. The feelings in these movies are powerful. We watch these movies to connect with perseverance, adventures, celebrations, and heroicism. The sad part is that many of us miss out on the ways in which our lives are much more beautiful and powerful than movies.
Just as an example, it could be that you and your partner decided to create an unusual and different meal together instead of going out to eat and it resulted in conversation about a troubling aspect of your relationship that needed addressing. Conflict occurred, but it was addressed, not run away from, and led to deeper intimacy. Later in the evening following dinner, the two of you looked at each other and experienced a sense of gratitude and joy for having chosen to enter relationship through a well-cooked meal and conflict. The issue was not fully resolved, but you realized you could trust your partner just a little bit more because he or she didn’t run away but chose to enter. Holding hands, you simply said, “Thank you for entering that. It means so much to me.”
In another example, it could be entering into conflict with someone at work whom you’ve chosen to forgive and approach as an equal. You enter the conversation already with a sense of peace because you’ve chosen to forgive them. By the end of the conversation, you realize they don’t understand you and you even realize nothing will change. Yet, you challenged the politics and you feel a sense of victory for having entered the conflict along with your fear. You tell about your experience to a good friend or your spouse of this mysterious mixture of forgiveness and confrontation you entered and they are able to participate in a small little celebration with you by affirming you. You can see the respect and admiration in the way they smile at you.
Do you see that when we take time to celebrate the courage required to live life to the full that we enter the script of a movie that is distributed to the angels? In these small moments of celebration, we experience feelings of power and beauty that go beyond any movie that has ever been filmed. That is because the real life movie we live is connected to the divine.
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