Many of us don’t lovingly confront one another because we incorrectly believe that we fear hurting those around us. The truth is that most of the time, we fear the repercussions that we might face. We fear rejection. We fear ridicule. We fear the other person will ignore us or become defensive. We fear being wrong. These things feel like death to us.
As I have become more relationally healthy over the past couple years, I've tried to practice the act of communicating prior to deciding if I'm right or wrong. I simply put it out on the table. My feelings aren't right or wrong, so I often start there. Just get it out on the table and see what happens. Often it seems more important to be known than to be right.*
Let’s remember that in grace and truth, we do not overlook sin, weaknesses, or non-moral preferences. We deal with it. We deal with it in the most loving way. We die for one another.
"If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me.” ~Jesus in Matthew 9:23
Let’s remember that in grace and truth, we do not overlook sin, weaknesses, or non-moral preferences. We deal with it. We deal with it in the most loving way. We die for one another.
"If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me.” ~Jesus in Matthew 9:23
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*A good book to help husbands and wives deal with this issue is called "Love and Respect".
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