Healthy Conflict is the Entry Point to New Life

This blog entry is a follow-up to the previous one called Healthy Relationships Kill Us in the End. I recommend you read that one first.

Conflict is often the entry point into healthy relationships. The main thing that prevents positive, healthy relationships is a failure to deal with the conflict. And, I know this might sound way out there, but the only way to get reconnected to the person we love or work with is to enter back into the relationship through the thing we fear most. We’ll have to re-enter the relationship through the very conflict we are avoiding.* In the end, however, if we deal with it, we will often feel like we’ve become more alive and more connected to the other person. In fact, I’ve noticed that some of my most intimate experiences with others has been through confronting one another and conversations about our conflicts.

Let’s remember that by lovingly confronting one another on our sin, we might initially feel like we’re dying, but in the end, we will help each other be raised to new life.

“For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will save it.” ~Jesus in Matthew 9:24
______________________________________
*For more help with how to confront one another in a healthy way, please read a book called Face to Face by Cloud and Townsend.