Crossing Border Stories

It has been said that in marraige, we must place our spouse's needs above our own. However, I disagree with this. I believe we must pl...

Once a person finds the courage to take ownership for his or her actions, refuses to beat themselves up over them, and somehow finds the dee...

In Christian theology, we believe that God-in-Christ died on a cross, punished for something He never deserved, namely our sin, descended in...

All of us grow up with styles of relating designed to protect us from harm.  These are fractured love styles that are based upon the ways in...

Men, our women want to be pursued. Our pursuit sometimes involves flowers, an evening out on the town, and a candle light dinner.  However...

"Most psychologists and other social science researchers regard trust as just one of many qualities that determine a relationship's...

What you have to decide is whether or not you want to do good to your spouse by taking care of your health the best you can.  Here are some ...

On the way to church this morning, noting my silence and facial expression, my wife asked me if something was wrong.  Instead of saying, ...

Have you ever shared with your spouse about how they had hurt you and your spouse became defensive, argumentative, avoidant, or contemptuous...

Last year, my wife, then girlfriend, and I went to a ballet called "Ballet Under The Stars" in a local park.  The night air was cr...

I heard a guy say one time that he calls his wife a couple times a day for no reason at all.  He just wants her to know that he's thinki...

My wife told me to write this blog - Take a Walk .  Here it is: One of the things we really like to do is take walks.  We've realized ...

My wife affects me to the core when she tells me what she knows I can do well.  In particular as men, we are interested in whether or not ou...

My wife and I meet with a counselor.  We do so extensively.  If you've been reading these previous blog entries of mine, you might be te...

I used to have grand ideas about how to save the world.  I had the following beliefs: if I could become a politician who saved the U.S. th...

Now that I’m getting into the whole marriage arena, I’m starting to hear all sorts of expression, commentary, and proverbs about marriage.  ...

While speaking with a friend of mine at church the other day, he gave me one good piece of advice about being a husband. "Don't ...

In the Velveteen Rabbit, two stuffed animals talk about what it means to be loved and to become Real: "Real isn't how you are mad...

What I've found through research is that trust is built in very small moments, which I call "sliding door" moments, after the ...

My wife asked me to write a blog about some of the struggles we have faced both prior to marriage and within marriage. I can understand why...

In college, I went to an event in our dorm on creative dating.   The man who presented had written a book about he and his wife and thei...

In my last blog entry, I talked about how if you practice saying "I love you" to your wife once a day, then it will probably turn ...

Men, I heard this guy say one time that he makes sure to tell his wife that he loves her at least once a day. I decided to follow suit and I...

In recent entries, I've stressed the need to find and grab hold of our own individual interests and the need to endorse the interests o...

Refuse anything less than equality with your spouse.  So many of us go into relationships because we want to rescue or be rescued, teach o...